Brilliant mom chooses her son’s mental health or EQ over his grades

A mom chooses her son’s mental health or EQ over his grades as she posted it on her social media. It is said that education is the key for learners to achieve opportunities. Learners all go to school to learn different things inside the classroom. Yet, we can’t deny that learners have different characteristics. It also means that they have different phases in learning as well.

Education is the pathway to build a better future. Parents do want their children to achieve success for their children. Education is the only treasure that others can’t steal. In order for this to happen, parents keep track of the performance of their kids in school.

This is what happened as this mom chooses her son’s mental health or EQ over his grades. She is Jheezel Orbina Panga and she prefers mental health rather than higher grades. This mom made sure that her son is doing his school work always. She is always there to guide her son during study sessions. She did everything as a mom would do yet her son’s grades are still very low.

This way, she weighed the pros and cons if she should reprimand her son or not. She later realized that it is not proper to scold the child since everybody has their own phase of blooming. This mom chooses her son’s mental health or EQ over his grades. She found out that her son is not gifted with high grades but he has a gift of a good heart and he can feel others. His emotional quotient (EQ) is higher than his intelligent quotient (IQ).

Here is what Mrs. Jheezel Orbina Panga, wrote in her post: 

“This was my son’s report card nito lang nagdaan na first grading. He is a grade 1 pupil. Haha! Obviously, walang magulang ang matutuwa diyan. At oo! Talagang nainis ako at napagalitan ko siya that day. I even scolded him the following day. Nasabon ko talaga siya to the extent na maiiyak siya. I felt so bad kaso kailangan ko ipaintindi sa kanya na mahalaga din ang pag-aaral although bata pa naman siya. 

Please, don’t get me wrong sa pagiging OA or whatever. Nag-expect lang ako dahil nakatutok ako sa kanya sa pagtuturo at paggawa ng activities. I’m not aiming for high grades. Gusto ko lang yung decent na marka. 

But you know what? Although makulit din siya at pasaway minsan. Lately, na-realize ko na meron akong intelligently different na anak. Paano ko nasabi? Siya kasi yung tipo ng anak na laging may ganitong senaryo… 

“Mama, birthday ng classmate ko bukas. Pabaunan mo ko kanin tapos dalawang itlog, bibigyan ko siya para surprise.” 

“Mama, alam mo yung classmate ko kawawa kasi wala siyang baon. Eh diba may baon akong biscuit tapos may 20 pa ko. Binigyan ko siya 5 para makabili siya soup.” 

“Mama, yung classmate ko laging masakit yung kamay kaya sinulat ko siya sa notebook niya.” 

“Mama, paglaki ko bibilhan kita ng kotse para di ka na mahihirapan samin ni Aki pag aalis tayo na tatlo lang tayo. Kita ko kasi hirap na hirap ka pag tatawid tayo.” 

“Mama, maglaba ka lang diyan. Ako na bahala kay Aki.” 

“Mama, mag-aalkansya ako para may pang-kasal na kayo ni Papa.” 

— Naisip ko, bata ba talaga ‘tong anak ko? Parang matanda na nagkatawang bata lang. Pero meron pang pangyayari na nagpaiyak sakin. Yun yung nagkwento siya sakin about sa pagdadasal niya gabi-gabi.

“Mama, alam mo ba naiiyak ako habang nagdadasal ako sabi ko Papa Jesus wini-wish ko po sana tumalino na ko para hindi na nagagalit sakin si mama. Ang Bobo ko kasi e. Marunong naman na ko magbasa konti pero mababa pa rin grade ko.” 

That broke my heart. Naiyak ako mga Inay. Omg! Di ko napapansin nagiging hard na pala ko masyado sa kanya. Nagsorry ako sa kanya kahapon. Humingi ako ng pasensya kung lagi ko siyang napapagalitan. Gusto ko lang naman siyang lumaki ng tama at may values. Sinabi ko pa na okay lang kahit hindi mataas grades niya basta maging mabuting bata lang siya masaya na ko. 

Ang sagot niya, “Okay lang po mama. Mag-aaral na ko mabuti.” 

I remember sabi ng Lolo ko. Huwag ko daw gawing basehan ang grades. Mas mahalaga daw kung may natutunan ba talaga ang bata. Siguro nag-expect lang ako sa kanya kasi noon sobrang taas ng mga grades ko. 

Sa mga wisdom ng anak ko ngayon, masasabi ko siguro naman lalaki siyang mabuting tao. Proud ako kasi bata pa siya, malalim na ang level of understanding niya. 

Sorry medyo napahaba. I just want to share to all the parents that our child’s mental health or EQ is more important than their grades.

This mom chooses her son’s mental health or EQ over his grades and this is an eye opener to everyone. Parents should not pressure their children on getting high grades. Different students have their own skills and intelligences. As time passes by, they will learn to shape their own intelligences. This will be the step that will guide them to learn the realities of life. Wait for them to bloom on their own. – Clea | Helpline PH